Recently Irving Karchmar of the Darvish blog drew my attention to talk given by Dr Jawad Nurbaksh of the Nimatullahi Order. He says:
“Most people who are drawn to the path of Sufism and become disciples of a master have, in fact, an image of the master in their minds, expecting the master to act according to this subjective image of theirs. If, after a while, they come to conclude that the master is not acting according to their mental image, they decide to leave this master, because, from their point of view, the master has not performed according to their expectations, and in point of fact they expect the master to be the disciple of their own mental image, otherwise they conclude that he or she is not a good master.”
The rest of the talk is well worth reading. It’s here.